Why Single Dads Deserve the Most Special Father’s Day
With Father’s Day around the corner, my heart and my head immediately begin visualizing the way my daughter and I will celebrate for my husband. He’s a damn good dad, that man of mine, and I know our day will be filled with special handmade presents, breakfast in bed, and likely a big family barbeque where I will shower my husband with the love and thanks he deserves, much like many women will be doing for the father they parent with. In my travels and ponderings as a writer obsessed with parenthood, I have found one thing to be true. Single fathers do not get enough credit. For every article about parenting, you’ll likely find an article about an amazingly impressive single mom, balancing a successful career and raising brilliant children all with a smile on her face. And for every story we hear about fabulous single mothers – we hear less and less about the men who are also faced with the often harsh reality of raising a child on their own. Recently I had the chance to catch up with a friend, Steven D’Achille, who has devoted his whole life and more to raising his child all on his own. Having tragically lost his wife when his daughter was just five weeks old, Steven was thrust into the world of single parenthood and navigating the difficult road of raising a daughter without his counterpart, her loving mother. From the outside looking in, it’s not hard to imagine how difficult this journey has been for D’Achille, a young, hard working, and loving father. Raising his now 2-year-old daughter, Adriana, was never something he thought he’d be solely responsible for. “When it first hit me that I’d be taking care of Adriana on my own, I was so scared, “D’Achille admitted. “But now, things are a lot less scary. I have found that not overthinking, worrying, or overcomplicating things was the best way for me to feel like a good dad. Kids are more resilient than you realize.” And he’s right . Having not only adopted a laid-back, level-headed attitude of parenting solo, D’Achille has also fallen head over heels with the idea of raising a daughter. “I take her for pedicures, we have tea parties, I paint her nails and take her shopping.” Just a few minutes into my conversation with D’Achille and I started imagining the great advice he could be giving to all of the fathers of the world, single or not. I was raised by one parent who never made me feel like I was lacking the love of my absent parent, and I imagine D’Achille’s daughter to be just as lucky, if not more. “ I really believe that fathers and daughters have a very special bond. One of the most challenging things for me is making sure that every day, Adriana knows I’m the one who is here for her and who she can come to for the truth about things .” Sure, he’s got the same concerns of any person parenting alone. Managing day to day life while worrying about work responsibilities, carrying on his wife’s legacy through the incredible foundation he’s started to help women with Postpartum Illnesses and still making sure to be the most important of Adriana’s life is his only focus right now. Through it all though, his favorite part of fatherhood is laying in bed at night with his little princess, scratching her arm the way he scratched her mother’s, and singing “twinkle, twinkle, little star,” as Adriana only knows her mother to be the brightest and most beautiful start in the sky on any given night. D’Achille’s only wish is that there would be more education for men on the responsibilities of raising children. “From the minute my wife became pregnant, she got all the attention, education, and help when it came to learning about bringing a baby into this world. We need to teach dads to be better prepared for fatherhood.” While I couldn’t agree with him more, I think it’s safe to say that he is nailing this fatherhood thing, and then some. So on this Father’s Day, reach out to the daddies in your lives who are working their hardest and trying their best and achieving the near-impossible on their own. We see you, single dads, and we wish you the Happiest Father’s Day of all. For more information on Steven D’Achille and the wonderful work he is doing in his late wife’s honor, visit his foundation . A writer, entrepreneur, radio host, and powerful motivational speaker – Michelle Dempsey, owner and founder of Michelle Dempsey, Very Well-Written , has one goal in mind: empowering women from all walks of life with her incredible personal life story of overcoming adversity and using the lessons learned to achieve success . Internationally published and known for her ability to connect with readers on a deeper level, Michelle has successfully united her passion for business and writing and developed a thriving career, offering writing and editing services, business coaching, branding expertise, and content marketing to business of all kinds.