The slower, sticky days of summer provide a great opportunity for us to create meaningful summer traditions that our children will cherish. With no school lunches to pack or homework to complete, there’s finally a little more time to connect heart to heart with our kids.
Take a Family Vacation
Summer is usually when families pack up and head out for vacation. According to research conducted by the Family Holiday Association in 2015, family vacations can act as “happiness anchors,” happy memories that will help your kids get through tough times. John McDonald, director of the Family Holiday Association, says, “Reflecting on our happiest memories of joyful time spent together as a family can be extremely powerful in bringing relief and respite when faced with the darker times that life can bring.”
Mini-Getaways
For parents, vacations require a lot of planning and often a big chunk of money. That’s not always an option, so when money is tight or you can’t get a week off work, opt for special weekend getaways. This summer, my family isn’t taking a big vacation. Instead, we are going out of state to visit family one weekend and spending another weekend at one of favorite destinations. These mini-getaways won’t be nearly as pricey as a week-long vacation, but my kids will enjoy the same benefits – happy memories to hold on to.
Do What You Love
Decide on one “thing” (or several things) that your family loves to do together, and look for opportunities to do it during the summer months. For example, my family has several loves – music, movies, and comic-cons. These shared experiences unite us, making our bonds stronger and providing a sense of belonging. A quick internet search led me to several summer comic conventions within driving distance (all on weekends) and weekly free local concerts! I also discovered that a local park is showing a free outdoor movie for kids this summer. If you’re on Facebook, it’s easy to check for local events!
Traditions are simply any activity that your family does ritualistically, so outdoor concerts, movie nights, and comic-cons have become our summer traditions. Other ideas include trips to a water park, hiking, biking, flea markets, crafts, camping – the possibilities are endless! What do YOU love?
Family Fun Nights
I believe family fun nights are also happiness anchors for our children. In an often busy and disconnected world, the times we intentionally set aside to be present with our kids are healing balms for the heart. These are times our children feel cherished, seen, heard, and wholly loved. Family fun night shows that we care enough to put aside our phones and distractions and focus on play.
We have a family fun night rotation including game night, movie night, and dinner out night. I plan to add a family cooking night into the mix as well. During game night, we pop popcorn or have some type of finger food and play our favorite board or card games. We are currently loving Boss Monster, Castle Panic, and Hogwarts Battle. Movie nights are often just movies at home rather than at the theater which can be quite expensive, and my kids’ favorite is when we move the television to the back deck and watch it outside. A drive-in theater is on my bucket list this summer as well! For our “dinner out” nights, we add special “dates” into the rotation. For example, every other month, we do “Wings Wednesday” which involves eating at our local wings restaurant and taking a trip to the comic book store.
A few times a year, usually around a holiday, we have “Minute to Win It” games. This summer, we’ll play this on Independence Day with a few decorations and holiday-themed foods. For game ideas, visit here.
Summer Read Alouds
Each summer, we read a book or series of books together. Research shows that reading aloud has many benefits, even reading aloud to big kids! Educator Tim Trelease says that reading aloud to your child, no matter what her age, is the magic bullet for creating a lifelong reader. This summer, we are reading the Harry Potter series. Last summer, we read The Hobbit. Other family favorites are The Lion, the Witch, and The Wardrobe, and The Wizard of Oz. I have a growing list in queue, including The Penderwicks, The Trials of Apollo, The Time Hunters, The Mystery of Ghost Island, and Artemis Fowl. Click here for some read-aloud ideas.
Reading aloud is a tradition that I hope they carry on with their own children one day. In fact, I hope they carry on each of these traditions as well as create a few that are unique for their own families. By being intentional about spending quality time together as a family this summer, I hope I’m showing my kids how to live intentionally, stay connected, and love well throughout their lives. Happy summer!