What used to be a season filled with joy, wonder, magic, and togetherness has become, for many parents, a season of stress that we can’t wait to end. We often are pulled in a hundred different directions as our calendars fill up with events and to-dos. In our achievement-driven culture, it can be easy to feel like we are behind before we even get started. There’s so much focus on looking like we have it all together instead of just being together. It’s time to stop the madness! Ditch these 5 things and be less stressed this holiday season.
1. Ditch the full calendar.
I know you want the kids to experience all the things, but guess what their favorite memories will be made of in 10 years? The simple times you cozied up and just enjoyed each other’s company. Believe me, kids would rather have happy, stress-free parents than attend all those special events you want to take them to. Yes, get out there and enjoy a few awesome things. Volunteer somewhere. Enjoy a train ride. Go caroling. Just be sure to leave a few boxes unmarked on that calendar, too.
2. Ditch the idea of a perfect holiday.
Someone will probably have a tantrum in the mall while you’re trying to get those last-minute gifts. Those Pinterest-perfect reindeer cupcakes you’re trying to make might look more like a really sick dog, and at least one child will have his eyes closed in the family Christmas card photo. It’s okay, really. Some of the fondest memories are made when things go awry. At least 80% of parenting is learning to go with the flow. This is a great time to practice that!
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3. Ditch what isn’t important to you.
Come on, now. We’ve all been guilty of overextending ourselves because we were trying to impress our in-laws or keep up with the Jones’. Ditch the self-conscious people pleasing this year. Make a list of what is really important to you and your family. If you’re tempted to do something that’s not on that list, just say no.
4. Ditch the technology.
You don’t have to go cold turkey, but spending a little less time staring at screens through the holidays will improve your mental and emotional health. Late-night computer and cell phone use has been linked to fatigue, stress, and depression. If nothing else, try to shut them down a couple of hours before bed.
5. Ditch the clutter.
Researchers have confirmed that clutter has negative effects on your mind and even your health. Fortunately, there’s no better time to get rid of all that extra stuff than during the holiday season when many places take used times to give to those who need them. Spend a day reorganizing and putting unused clothes, toys, and more into donation boxes. Clear your space and your mind while helping those in need.
Remember, the gift of presence and connection are the greatest gifts of all. So let’s ditch the stress this holiday season and embrace joy, comfort, and our loved ones instead.